My heart goes out to you. I am near the end of my divorce. This word "divorce" just seems so routine, but going through it is like scorched earth with tons of collateral damage. Everyone hurts, except the instigator. It is betrayal of the first order.

You are not alone, although this pain is yours alone to feel and heal. This totally sucks... call it what it is: relationship combat, and "all combat is hell', told to me by my father who was a Japanese POW for 3 1/2 years in WW II.

I am so sorry.