Sorry. I started a few answers then deleted them. I didnt say they were the same. I said you couldnt understand how other people felt about it.

People are scared. Its like the Civil War. If you voted for the candidate you've mentioned before, you are probably assumed to be racist, anti-gay, and idk what else, lets say those two. Thats a conversation stopper - a friendship stopper - for most people right there. You can hardly walk down a street together in america today without something challenging that.