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Originally Posted by unaluna
Wow. You know, there were times when i did exactly that, just quick little calls or emails or texts, just checking to see if he was there. And i got a FEEEELING from your post here that like finally closed the circuit on WHY or how that was so important.
1, its a clean, direct ask, stripped of any frills. So you can be SURE the question was heard, and you can be sure they are answering the right question.
2. Then its like, okay, all systems go, prepare for liftoff. You can see how if a parent hedged on their answer, it could get a kid stuck in ocd and uncertainty. |
Thanks, Una. Yeah, I think I might just need to be more direct and to the point. Not just with MC or T, but probably with other people in my life, too. I've been getting a bit better with that. Like if H seems angry, I'll outright ask him if he's angry with me or if it's like something at work, etc. And he'll generally tell me (it's usually not me). When we'd initially discussed my doing that in therapy, H said it would be annoying for me to ask. So it made me reluctant at first. But better to have him be annoyed briefly (he tends to let things go quickly, unlike me) than to have me worried for hours.
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