Im hoping so Nammu & thinking so too. Praying I dont get triggered & revert back to the anger that I responded to him with before I left then when I kicked him out of my farm when I gave him a chance to see if the different enrivonment that helped me so much would make any difference with him.

I do think that anger was like a glass being filled to the top & any more drops just make it overflow. My glass is NOW empty after almost 10 years but I have noticed that everything he has done these past 10 years that has messed me up financially I do get angry at but distance & communication it writing only has helped me defuse before blowing up at him....& he has done some REAL STUPID things. The last one Im still sorting through how to react to what he did that was totally illegal. I will see what DMV suggests.

I do think that time, distance, good therapy, having wonderful caring friends in my life, growing & knowing now who I am after living my whole life around dysfunctional parents then husband, learning though on my own through research what is really going on with him way beyond just adult ADD will really help & I will spend as little time as possible anywhere around him which will help more than anything else.

We will see....just know my focus & excitement of getting my horse shipped here will overshadow anything else by how wonderful that achievement will be.