I'm very direct with my T about what I need from her whether it's reassurance, encouragement, help, etc. She's not big on emails, so if she knows what I need, she can give it to me. If she doesn't, I'll probably get a response I don't want.

How to end the cycle? I don't know. I know to make changes you actually have to put forth effort. You have to also really want to change.

But I "think" if you can be direct with what you need, that will make the emailing less. And then you just need to hold onto that reassurance for as long as you can. Really hold onto it.