I ask myself a lot, am I mentally ill or am I just recovering from stress/mistreatment? Is mental illness a label that just puts women in their place? (I read somewhere that more women suffer from depression than men for instance.)

"him refusing to give me what I want and forcing me to have make up sex when humbled is over." Yes, I have also experienced the feeling that making love can be all about domination. Sometimes struggles in marriage are about-- Who is in charge.

Only you can decide what it is that you really need. <<hugs>>