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Originally Posted by annielovesbacon
My best advice is that your T only knows as much as you tell them. Yes, they often can read between the lines or pick up on body language, but for the most part, if you choose to lie or hide things from them, they won't be able to help you in that regard.
In my case, I lied to my T for months about feeling suicidal because I was afraid to tell her. But if I had just told her from the beginning, she could've helped me right away and I probably wouldn't have felt so bad for so long -- and she could have kept me safe if I needed it. She also didn't realize how bad off I was, because I was hiding it from her. It was hard for her to help me without knowing the seriousness of my situation.
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Yep. I've kept stuff from my pdoc out of fear or shame. Once I was brave enough to be honest he was so supportive and comforting. Been with him for 10yrs and usually only see him for refills.
Have had 3 tdocs. #1 was all about her damn Disney trips. She knew I wasn't being real but she let me come in twice a week anyway. Gotta make that dolla! #2 wanted me to do all the talking and when I was honest she didn't seem (to me) to know how to reply. #3 is awesome. The first thing he said to me was that he didn't play head games. He didn't want to waste my time with bs. So I see him only when needed. Not on a schedule. And when I do see him we put it all on the table. Discuss as much as we can and if more appts are needed, so be it.
Also, he digs. He asks questions. The others didn't.
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