Oh yes. You get to think (and talk with your t) about what a yes would mean to you. I have an ongoing question to my t about if he is going to stop by my apartment on his way to or from the airport. Not only the answer, but even the question changes over time. It really helps you see how you are changing. I went from acting like a total douche the first time i asked (we argued about who sounded more like my mother!) to sounding like a much smaller douche this last time