My friends were surprised when I told them I never had a "real" birthday party. I made a big deal over my sons' birthdays when they were growing up.

Hubby buys me a gift and takes me out. My sons buy me gifts and come to my b-day meal when they can.

But they don't do anything for mother's day. My hubby is the "you're not my mother" kind of person, too. But I sent his mother a card from him and me!

Be prepared for a possible disappointment, but tell your children when your birthday is and ask them to send a card, call, or whatever you hope to get.

One of my sons told me he "didn't do Valentine's Day." No card, of course.

And by all means, celebrate your own birthday regardless

Happy Belated Birthday!