Time!!!! It just takes time to feel safe in a new environment. I lived around totslly dysfunctional people all me life from parents right into marriage & felt like I HAD to fight for everything I wanted or needed. Fast forward 54 years of that, I finally left that life for a life on my own. It took me years of having wonder new friends & support that was like norhing I ever experienced before even though in my case I am now living alone....but from continued positive experiences I have learned that I dont have to fight & REAL FUNCTIONAL people understand & listen & at times even anticipate my needs through only a conversation. It just takes time to get used to living in a functional environment. Be open & aware of it. It will grow on you.