Appreciate the responses. Today I started the "180". I didn't text or call today. The first time since I came back from deployment. She texted me this afternoon a few old pictures of me and my coworkers in the military and said "All of these people you dissed me for and now they are off and happy and appreciative and kind to their spouses". It was out of the blue. I didn't respond back, cause I knew whatever I would have said would have been wrong and cause. Ore suffering on my part (She probably would have responded "I'm done" or "It's over" so i spared myself from hearing any negativity.