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Originally Posted by seesaw
Okay, I know I'm making a lot of comments, but in your defense here, you kind of went back on your own boundaries. You said you weren't going to engage in political discussion with her because it's really none of her business who you voted for, etc. (which is completely okay and right and allowed). But then you allowed her to drag you into this political discussion.
So, it doesn't seem like she had great respect for your boundaries if she refused to be your friend and not discuss politics, which is what you wanted.
So, going back to my story of how when I roomed with a good friend I found out what she really was like, after knowing her for like 15 years....I think you have learned more about who this friend really is.
I suggested in my previous post that this may be an opportunity for personal growth, and I hope it may be an eye opener that (at least in this circumstance) you let someone disregard your personal boundaries. How can you be a stronger advocate for your boundaries in the future and not feel like you are being held hostage for friendship?
Seesaw
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No, she didn't want to respect my boundaries, nor did she make any comment that made it appear she was listening to or respecting any of my explanations. I explained my side of the story, and she still saw me as a betrayer irregardless of the interrogation and my pleading to keep the friendship intact. Is that not what a blind sheep is? Someone who is so strong with unwavering beliefs they'd disregard everyone's feelings that don't match theirs and ruin a friendship over it? "Blind sheep" isn't necessarily a political insult, although in this case her political beliefs came before a lifelong friendship because my beliefs didn't match hers.