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Originally Posted by LiteraryLark
No, she didn't want to respect my boundaries, nor did she make any comment that made it appear she was listening to or respecting any of my explanations. I explained my side of the story, and she still saw me as a betrayer irregardless of the interrogation and my pleading to keep the friendship intact. Is that not what a blind sheep is? Someone who is so strong with unwavering beliefs they'd disregard everyone's feelings that don't match theirs and ruin a friendship over it? "Blind sheep" isn't necessarily a political insult, although in this case her political beliefs came before a lifelong friendship because my beliefs didn't match hers.
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I see "blind sheep" as meaning more that someone follows blindly. Without being privy to your conversation with her, and the questions and responses, I can't say that she was doing something blindly, although I don't get that impression since she wanted to ask you questions and understand why you voted the way you did. "Blind sheep" usually means that someone is a follower with no real opinion of their own or understanding of that which they are following. I don't get that impression of your friend.
But you're right that she lacked respect for your boundaries and that should be a red flag to you. Ask yourself, why do YOU want to continue a friendship with someone who can't respect your boundaries?
I suspect that if had not been politics, your friendship may have been in jeopardy because of something else in the future, because of her lack of respect for your boundaries.
I said I have few friends who don't share my political beliefs, but that's not true. I actually have many friends who I have no clue where they stand politically and I don't care, because that's not what we share together and I have no desire to discuss politics with them.
You have every right to say to a person, I don't want to discuss politics and stand by that. If they won't change the subject, then say, well, let's chat another time, or say, well, it was nice seeing you but I can't chat about this topic right now, and leave. Don't let people make your boundaries a doormat.