I think I get what you mean. I go out of my way to make sure my mom is ok, after all she did give me life, so I feel obligated just from that. And even though I am a pain in the *** a lot of the time, she still always checks to make sure I'm ok no matter how rude I can get. But also since I was the one that decided to move out, her finances are back to being a mess and I feel completely guilty about that. I now recognize that she was spoiled by my grandmother because it seems as though she has difficulty living on her own. But because of me leaving her behind...I take the loss of she needs help for this that and the other because of the guilt and because I make more than her. And after talking to her on Friday...I took out a personal loan for her to pay off some bills...sigh...