Thread: Making Amends
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Old Feb 27, 2017, 06:55 PM
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Originally Posted by seesaw View Post

But you're right that she lacked respect for your boundaries and that should be a red flag to you. Ask yourself, why do YOU want to continue a friendship with someone who can't respect your boundaries?

You have every right to say to a person, I don't want to discuss politics and stand by that. If they won't change the subject, then say, well, let's chat another time, or say, well, it was nice seeing you but I can't chat about this topic right now, and leave. Don't let people make your boundaries a doormat.
Thank you. I know it's hard to understand what went down without knowing what was said in the conversation or the history between us. I am a chronic doormat and I really want a solid friendship where my friends have no hidden motives. I expect and see that with E J and a rekindling of a friendship with A (which had always been pleasant, no falling out) and I expected that with K and was shocked when she turned on a dime and lashed out at me for my political choices.

And you're right, for those who made this point, that I simply DO NOT understand how intense politics can be and how strongly people feel about it. I simply do not understand why people lose friendships over this, even after seeing how upset K was when she forced it out of me and lashed out at me when that is the complete opposite of how I knew and viewed her. I had no idea she was political at all, so much to lose a friendship over it. Maybe I am the blind sheep after all.
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