I can't think of anything from my past that I'm actively ashamed of or hiding. There was a brief stint when I avoided telling her that my partner and I were talking marriage. I look back now and see that I was pretty much in denial about how bad the relationship was, and I knew she would know that... I don't know. Then for a while I was afraid to tell her how often I was having a drink (every day) but that was small stuff, really and more about shame I felt in my relationship.

These days, the things I don't bring up:

1) My feelings for her.

2) My lifelong list of unrequited crushes and the obsessive nature of them.

3) Much about sex, at all.

All three are obviously connected but sex is hard for me to talk about in general. It's something I'd like to — I mean talking about it- not having it, I'm good with the thing itself, I guess.