How do we learn to love ourselves? Does anyone have any idea? I know I need to get back into therapy. But how do I make myself really want it if I don't believe I am worth it and I think I am hopeless? I am asking because I don't want to hurt people in my life.

But I don't know how to want to get better for myself because I don't love myself or believe I have any value. I don't see hope for my future either. I've tried a lot of medications and I've been to many therapists.

I have always have gotten stuck in therapy because of this and I am sick of hearing from therapists that I should make a list of achievements or other trite suggestions they usually give.

i don't know how DBT can be helpful for my suicidality either which is a big issue for me. I've done DBT before. but i don't know how to accept myself and forgive myself for things in the past, so learning the skills again seems useless to me.

The only motivation I have for getting back into treatment is that i don't want to hurt my family, although i feel that i am hurting them too much by being alive, especially my husband. he wants me to get treatment but he wants me to want it for myself. so i don't know what to do.