(Sorry if I missed some of your posts- )
Don't you think our parent's generation were taught: Spare the rod, spoil the child?

Though, I have never felt confident that everything I did or did not do for my children was absolutely correct. I have never understood people who think that their actions are perfect in every way. My brain just works differently.

It is good that you are forgiving but I think you sound a bit aggravated by that sort of comment also.