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nonightowl · Mar 01, 2017, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by shybutterfly81

I am sick of losing family. I lost 4 family members in one yr in 2014. Now I lost 2 more and I am not sure how to handle all this loss. In 2014 it was cancer. This yr it is Huntington's. Anyone else know of this disease? it is in the bloodline of an entire side of my family. And cancer is taking the rest. My aunt now has inoperable brain cancer and has been sent home to wait. I hope you all know what I mean by that. Wait to die. She is in NH and I cannot even see her. Is anyone out there dealing with loss like this? Can anyone relate? Please let me know.

I can relate to the "waiting" part. Mom gave the shocking news she had lung cancer in June of last year. It was stage 4 so I knew she wasn't going to last too long. The caveat is I didn't know how long. I know this applies to all of us, but it's different with a life threatening illness.

I lost a friend to this dreadful disease in 2014. He was around the age my mom was, and he had the same symptoms. I kind of knew what to expect but even so I couldn't be completely prepared.

About a month ago mom passed. She lasted longer than I thought she would, but I also thought she had a few more weeks. I'm relieved she's not suffering anymore. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. We weren't close, even in the end.

Now I'm thinking about my dad and wondering how long HE can last. He's not the type to cry or seek out support; he'll just hold it all in. He lashed out at me and raged when he gave me the news. He didn't see the point in my coming by and he said he didn't need any help.

Now it feels like I don't have family at all even though I have one surviving parent and one sibling. We were never a close family, and this has made it even more disconnected much to my dismay and shock. Death is so emotional and my family represses emotions.

I'm sorry you're in this situation and you can't even see her.