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i no longer know what to say. Going to therapy has become an anxiety producing event.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">What does he say when you tell him this? Does he offer reassurance? We all hit rough times in therapy, and his telling you so might help normalize the situation, so I hope you will share these feelings and thoughts with him.

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i grabbed some topic from a previous talk and gave that to him... but in all honesty? i was nowhere.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Can you make it a rule to be honest with him? If he asks what is happening with you, just be honest and don't make something up that is not true. He can't help you unless you are honest. I know, it's not easy.

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it's not that i have run out of things to say.. it's that i am avoiding the biggest thing.... the largest issue in my life remains untouched

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Ahhhh, well it sounds like this may be the source of having "nothing to say" in therapy anymore. The biggest issue looms and is crying for attention. Hard to talk about the temperature outside when the hurricane is on the horizon. ((((hugs)))) Recently, I shared a very core issue for me with my lawyer. It became obvious I really needed to deal with this, and she was amazed I had never mentioned this thing to my therapist. It amazed me too. How could I work with him for a year and make a lot of progress and never tell him anything about this? Maybe we just can't, until we are ready. And the last few sessions have passed and still I don't bring it up. I know my lawyer mentioned it to him, so he knows something needs to be dealt with. I think I hinted something last time, and he said let's talk about this next time. You are completely right, gerber, therapy can be an anxiety producing event!

Please hang in there with your T. I hope you can share with him about what all is going on, and maybe he can help.