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Originally Posted by Rose76
No, it has nothing to do with that. Stop acting like there's some mystery here that you can't figure out.
Your wife is a young woman. She's not at "mid-life." That happens between age 50 and age 60.
Your wife is not having a "crisis." You are having a crisis. Your wife knows pretty much exactly what she does and doesn't want to do. She does not want to be with you. She has already made that decision and has moved on. She's not dealing with any crisis. She's pursuing education for a nursing career and she's pursuing finding her next man. She's interested in you as someone to do many hours of childcare during the week to give her a good bit of free time. Also, she needs you to help support those kids. Beyond that, she has no use for you in her life. Get it, know it and live with it. You are the one in crisis now . . . because you had no desire or intention to end this marriage. But it is over. She no longer lives with you. It's over between you. It's over. That's not going to change.
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Rose thank you 4 this. I did not recall DadFMF wife's age. Young mid lifers can be affected from as early as 45, but she is younger, isn't she? DadFMF's 1st post included similar events to my own, hence my use of the word
crisis as I was uncertain about what she was actually going through. She 'seemed'
to be in crisis
like my own spouse. (who is older!)
One cannot have a mid life criss
if one is not yet in mid life (!!)
That's the transition time for reflection before moving onto
elder life stage. And she's 'not there yet'!
The more I read, and your post above in particular just now, the more inclined I am to believe that she really is manipulative, callous & self centered
Thank you for your insight.
DadFMF, I have said it before,
she did you a favour. Whenever people are hurtful to us (for whatever reason), it isn't healthy anyway. Prepare yourself, the more she is ignored, the more she is likely to contact you (probably part curiosity & part needing to know what's up re: you, as that keeps her in control) ... Ignore her. Work on you. I wish you all the best as you navigate this new chapter in your life.
Take care of yourself. You are the
life jacket for your kids as in the airplane analogy.
