In the beginning, when it was really hard to confess anything shameful to her, i would tell her i was anxious, and she actually is really good at guessing what I am nervous about...but it would take a lONG time, but eventually i would write it down on a post-it for her. I wouldn't let her read it out loud (which she sometimes likes to do with my e-mails, and i am always like NO! I don't want to hear my emails out loud!), but once she did, she would talk and make me feel okay about sharing that, and that she is still there and isn't judging.