I wouldn't read into the body language. He was probably just trying to be relaxed until he realized he was crowding you and wanted to give you room.

As to his statement. Those are very open-ended statements. We can't possibly know what he meant. You need to ask him to clarify. Just ask questions like, "Can you please explain what you mean when you said this reminded you of countertransference?" and "What did you mean when you said, you have your own history?" These are legitimate questions because HE brought it up. You have a right to an explanation.

Transference isn't always 'erotic' and it happens in all our relationships to some degree or another. There are lots of ways we have transference/countertransference in all areas of life. For example, If I look at my older male boss like a father figure- that's transference. If My boss, in turn, picks up on that feeling and starts to feel protective of me, that's counter-transference. Therapists can sometimes project parental feelings onto their clients. Transference/Countertransference is not a bad or good thing but it's the Therapist's job to be aware of when it happens and how it a affects their own behavior.

I've come to understand that I can be slow on the uptake with anything that reeks of 'confrontation' or difficult conversations, but also, I think sometimes there a part of us that doesn't want too much explanation because we know the reality may not be what we want to believe. I let those little statements go by without clarification—*because I'd rather project my own fantasy interpretation.

When we are in that space of crushing on T, it's easy and understandable that we might misinterpret or read into their behaviors. It's understandable that we want to feel special to them as well. It's a very raw and vulnerable space to admit those feelings. You deserve a thorough explanation of his own statements so that you can be grounded in reality.