Hi melmo, so sorry you're feeling so stressed. I do feel successful in some ways but not others. I have a good job but I too struggle with cooking and cleaning and organizing. I only have one toddler and I am married so I am sure your life is much harder. For house work, what has helped me is to make sure I clean every day after my daughter goes to bed. Just maybe for a half an hour or so, so I keep up with stuff and don't feel like I'm always having to do all the cleaning on my days off. I've also been using the crockpot a lot, I start making the meal the night before, just super easy stuff. Put it in the fridge and then start it the next day. Try not to worry about whether or not you are "successful", because that means something different for everyone. Figure out what you need to achieve and then try to work at your goal at a very slow pace that is not overwhelming. It also doesn't matter what other people think. So what if your house is messy. Clean only as much as you need to to feel comfortable. Good luck