Thanks so much for the perspective and the advice. I'll certainly be passing this along. I know in the end she needs to want help in order to get help, but I don't want to wait until she bottoms out her life and walks out of our marriage for her to get it if at all possible.

Any tips on how to approach her in this state so we don't push her further away is a godsend to me right now. Your post has brought me closer to calm than I've been in a while.

Thanks again.