Okay, now i can answer. The t who told me about Nutella, like i need to find MORE empty calories in my life.

Also, the t who kept asking me what the payoff was. The answer was too painful for me, but mostly it was like TOO obvious? So now i tell my t i need help articulating the obvious answers, otherwise i will go looking for more complicated answers, and they are not right. So we usually both know what the easy obvious answer is, so if he will just SAY it, i will agree with him, with great relief.