I found out T1, who was divorced when I first me him had remarried-partly because just before his wedding I was getting coffee at a coffee shop across the street from his office and he was there and the barista said something about his upcoming wedding. And partly because after that he would sometimes refer to his wife. Then last fall, his brother died and in the obituary where it lists survivors he was listed without a spouse. I was sure that was a mistake. But then I thought about it and it had been a while since he had said anything about his wife. And at one point he had said the last year had been a hard one-I knew both of his parents had dies and assumed he was talking about that. I am still shocked that he divorced a second time. Not that I think it is that big of a deal (my dad, who is perfect, is three time divorced) to be divorced, but there is something about the title of family counselor (which he is) that would make me think that he would be good at being married. I still am not sure what to make of it.

And then, someone came up on my FB feed as someone I may know. We had unusual friends in common so I clicked on her page. And there was T1, a picture of him and her, pretty clearly on a date. I felt pretty weird seeing that. I mean, I have googled him (and my other ts) but I wasn't even thinking about him when I clicked. His son came up once as someone I might know-his son is a year older than one of my daughters and we have FB friends in common as well. I didn't click on the son, since I recognized the name.

Sorry, that got kind of off topic. But yes, I am weirded out by the second divorce. I felt bad about it over the holidays, feel bad that he is grieving the loss of both parents and a brother without support at home. And I know that is not my place to say anything. When the family members dies, he did tell me about that, and I expressed my condolences. So yeah. Thrown.