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Originally Posted by ScrewedUpMe
I'm so shocked. I have known T for 10 years. She had a husband and stopped mentioning him relatively recently. Not that she mentioned him alot...but the odd reference to him. No one is ever home when I go to see T at her home but I assumed he was always at work or away. I never realised he wasn't actually there. T moved 2 hours away from me about 4 years ago. I'm now not sure her husband ever went with her. T was telling me a story about someone today and she said "my ex-husband's cousin..." and I was SO shocked. I didn't even hear the story she told. I've always thought of T as so strong and grown up and proper and doing everything by the book and now I feel sad for her. Her kids are grown up and married and live a few hours away. I never knew she was alone. It's totally thrown me. I adore my T and I don't want her to be alone. She may not be alone actually, she may have a new partner, but I'm still sad for her. Today was an absolutely rubbish session because I am in the worst, crappiest mood today and let it come out in session by being really uncooperative and unresponsive. I think I was thrown though by T's revelation.  |
I don't know if you have read any of my posts about my reaction to my T's divorce, so sorry if I'm being repetitive. Like you, I was shocked when I found out, a few years ago. I sort of guessed, and she confirmed it. I couldn't think straight during the rest of that session, like you. I thought my T had a good marriage! I was stunned, and I'm still triggered by it, even now. It threw me off kilter! I hugged her when I found out, and in subsequent sessions we discussed my feelings about it. She was still going through the process when I found out. I felt so bad for her. She has adult children and had been married 25 years or so. She even told me something else I guessed, that she was unhappy with her husband and wanted the divorce, though it could be it was mutual. She has a partner now and admitted he's much nicer than her husband. The whole scenario affected me deeply. I suggest you discuss your feelings with your T if it continues to bother you.