Hi, I think that since ppl. change relative to conditions, circumstances & growing problems, that it is unlikely that they could objectively help themselves sometimes. The situation could become volatile.

Therefore, if one spouse is willing to get help & the other is unwilling to do what it takes - if even TO TRY (!!) to save marriage by getting help, then the interested party cannot simply be left in the 'twilight zone' until ???? what ??? exactly? until when ?? (Because in the meantime, TIME is passing - & one may be living/planning life, while the other has put life on hold indefinitely waiting & waiting for spouse to return)

The reasons for the issues may be military (as in this case) or something else .. but if the two are not actively working in the interest to save marriage & one is indifferently moving on with their own life, the reasons will not make a difference

What is needed is:
> Two hands to clap.
> And M. Counselling / therapy if the couple sees fit & agree together