My ex still seems to have such power over me...pushing buttons, guilt, coersion, etc...

During our marriage...it was constant...now that I'm out of the marriage...less often...though sometimes she can hit the right buttons and put me in a tail spin...

Wondering what others who have been in a controlling type relationships have done?

We have three kids...so I've got to deal with her in some manner...I'm becoming more assertive...though it still takes me for a tail spin...hoping that enough assertiveness will eventually slow her behavior...looking for some more immediate ideas...things I can do today...thanks,