Emotion is your evaluation about is it good or bad for me, to my advantage or not, is it a threat to my well being or an asset? You can improve your emotional state by questioning the things you tell yourself-is this true and accurate or am I thinking it's awful and I can't stand it when in fact it's only a common much smaller problem that everybody has to go through? AKA thinking rationally and not irrationality. RET therapy. David Burns and others. If you are looking for a total cure and 100 percent end of your discomfort forget it. That's not realistic. Once you have calmed yourself step back and see what might be done to improve things even more.