(((skies))) what is that? Ive had that happen a few times in my adult life. Ive always thought of it as a scolding and just felt childish and super humiliated. Not always sexual, but a "get a hold of yourself or else!" kinda thing, that sounds like what you are describing.

Sorry for the hijack, but i would like to hear more about this.

And ramona, im sorry, i dont mean to be judgmental. Sometimes, when i find myself saying, "im NOT x", i will turn it around and ask, what does it mean to be x, eg what am i afraid of. But maybe youve already asked yourself that etc.

Ive also yelled at my ts - after all this time theyve been asking me, what am i FEEEEELING, now they expect me to IGNORE my feelings? They would be like, well, just OBSERVE your feelings, you dont have to ACT on them all the time. Good thing, because now i feel like strangling a t!