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The Verbally Abusive Relationship: how to recognize it and how to respond by Patricia Evans.

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SUNRISE, Thanks for the support. I purchased this book today and just started it. I found the following statements on the first page of the introduction spoke to me today. Specially since he has been covertly undermining my healing by telling me how dangerous therapy is, how my T is going to manipulate me, take our children, destroy our family,etc..

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"If your have been verbally abused, you have been told in subtle, and not-so-subtle ways that your perceptions of reality is wrong and that your feelings are wrong. Consequently, you may doubt your own experience and, at the same time, not realize that you are doing so." (Evans,1996)

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My body is being shredded by the surfacing "shrapnel" Perna described in another post, However, already I've found some solace in the fact that he tried to put me down twice today but I recognized it for what it was and called him on it. I don't know where my marriage is ultimately headed but I definitely feel the tide starting to turn.