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Old Mar 03, 2017, 06:54 PM
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Thanks everyone for your input.

bluebicycle, I agree it could be beneficial if I can work with 2 different therapists, if that is allowed with them in treatment. Therapy is expensive for me, so I definitely want to make sure I make progress. I do have a good bond with my therapist and value her listening to me. It's just that some of the Freudian psychodynamic theories that some old-school therapists seem to use are at odds with some of my own beliefs.

Yes, I believe completely that early communication, attachment with family members, and our childhoods help shape who we are.....but I don't like when therapists are quick to put down a family member (in this case, my mom) before having more background. There's too much bias too early on. For instance, I know I was really difficult to handle in adolescence (and sometimes as a child) due to my BP issues.

My mom had some mood swings herself and can have a quick temper when frustrated, but there were times where I definitely hold myself accountable for things. My therapist dismisses that I should hold myself accountable for any of my actions involving my mom that I bring up to her, without understanding that it is hard to deal with having a Bipolar adolescent, and no one would be a perfectly patient mom when dealing with me at that time in my life. Also, there was a lack of awareness when it came to mental health back when my mom was growing up as well as stigma. My parents were not equipped to deal with it. A lot of her family on that side went undiagnosed, at least until later, and/or turned to drugs or drinking (not my mother though). My mom has made some mistakes in parenting. Besides, who hasn't? I do acknowledge some of my anxiety problems might have to do with my mom's mood swings growing up, but innately, I was an anxious kid. My mom and I have had our differences over the years, but I know she's always wanted the best for me.
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