Patty I am so sorry to hear she is nearing the end. It is such a hard thing to watch. I was with my mom the last 4 days and it was tough. We all kept wondering why she would not just let go. I think in these times it is very important to tell her it is ok to go. Sometimes they need to hear that. If she is beyond talking anymore then just lean down and tell her how much you love her and that it is ok. That you will be ok but she needs to go rest now. honey I am feeling your pain right now. I and the rest are here for you. much love hon.