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Old Mar 04, 2017, 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted by bluebicycle View Post
Yeah, if you want two T's, you can always ask... Your T might be fine with it if you explain why you want a 2nd T, or it might be against her personal philosophy. Who knows. You'll obv have to ask. But you'll find in the psychotherapy forum that some people inform both T's about each other, while some don't inform either T. Some even only inform 1 of the T's. In the end, it's up to you if you want to tell your T's. But some say it's helpful informing both T's because then the T's can work together. So that's another way to look at it. Again, up to you though. Just giving you options based on what I've seen.

But anyway, I can see why you're a bit upset with your T putting down a family member w/o having more background. I would feel the same way. Have you talked to your T about this? Like specifically tell her how you feel when she puts down *any* family member? Because what you said makes a lot of sense, and if you haven't given her that explanation, then def tell her that! What you wrote is not offensive -- in fact, it's gentle -- and it's well written enough to get the message across. I know it can be hard to confront someone like that, though... but sometimes a therapist doesn't know if what they're saying upsets the client unless the client specifically tells them.

It seems my T will challenge me when I try to focus on the positives when it comes to my mom and the values she instilled in me. She will automatically bring me back to the negatives and has used the term "verbally abusive," when I was telling her something my mom just said out of anger that didn't really affect me that much. Also, she'll keep prying for information on my dad and what I remember of him (there's really no point--I see him all the time). She's asked more than once, although I told her some memories.

I will challenge my T back at times when she talks negatively about my mom, so that has been my way of trying to get across to her that she's made much more of a positive impact on me, rather than a negative. Maybe I need to be a little bit clearer or more assertive. I'll see how next session goes. I do see my pdoc Monday...maybe I can talk to her about it and get a new perspective.

I guess I've just been a little frustrated since I have awareness....I just want her to tell me how to go about trying skills. Therapy is so expensive for me ($40 per session with my insurance), so I don't think I would even be able to afford a second therapist.