I hear ya...



Some people just seem to get attention by their mere presence. Some of us...not so much.

For example. I was in a store and had to stand on line for my turn (it was just one person after the other...all orderly). Person in front of me was being waited on and the next available clerk asked the person BEHIND me "can I help you?"....

This has happened to me more than once.

I remember at school when a question was asked, even if my hand was up I NEVER got called on....

I don't get it. I am not miserable. I smile, generally. I laugh loudly. I don't try to stand out, but I make NO effort to blend in.

The problem is that this kind of thing is STILL getting reinforced for me.

I wish I knew the answer, or had some tricks up my sleeve, but I don't and I really feel for you Mr. Stranger.

FWIW I see you. I think you are well-spoken and I know you're intelligent. You are not awkward here and seem confident. And (trust me) I don't go around complimenting people JUST to be polite. I tell it like it is.