I really need to accept my marriage of 38 yrs is over. Unfortunately I still have contact sometimes once a week for a few minutes with our grown children present. I dont have the funds for a divorce but asked for one a month ago. Ive thought of writing a letter but Im afraid Ill break down and try to get back together. I ve read alot of articles on steps to recover from a broken heart and currently have therapy because of bipolar. He abandoned me. He has left me many times and I always take him back. This time its different. I avoid him but get upset if hes avoiding me. Before I would be chasing him now I dont. Any advice would be appreciated .