Thank you all for your suggestions. My daughter is 10.
I am truly afraid that she will hate me later in life because I am the "heavy". This has happened to my older sister recently. She was the sole disciplinarian with her two daughters. They are now 20 & 21. The younger girl has publicly made it known that she hates her mother because of her upbringing but yet the 21 year old has a good relationship with her mom. The situation has become so severe, that there has been mention made that Crystal may be disinherited from her family's estate. I am so afraid of such public embarrassment happening to me in the future, I feel like giving in to my daughter's demands and overlooking her behavior. I do not want her to hate me. My husband is so happy-go-lucky and good natured that the things she does truly do not have an effect on him.