Dear JenKat:

Your post did not say if your brother was diagnosed by a professional and taking his prescribed meds . For now, I will assume that this is the case. I have severe ADHD and know the challenges of attending college. I am in my late 40's now but I have been through it and would like to share what I think your brother my be feeling. First of all, I can almost guarantee his actions are NOT out of laziness. I believe he has become overwhelmed, he doesn't know what to do and he doesn't want to let people and himself down. An AD/HD person will put homework off, not deliberately....it is just the way our brains function. The more difficult the assignment, the more difficult it is to actually begin it, stay with it and finish it.. What happens next is the snowball effect. Now he is so far behind, he is totally overwhelmed. I could go on and on...but I have to stop myself. Good news though, there is plenty of help available for him. This site has wonderful resources for you to learn about this condition and perhaps even learn about how AD/HD affect family members, and so on. Also check out add.org For your brother and his academic needs: he has many legal, civil, human and service rights. Coaching, tutoring, academic counseling and/or educational accommodations are available for him. Your state has a Protection and Advocacy Department who are there for people like us with this condition and the learning disability that it causes. Please see this website: mentalhealth.samhsa.gov and another good site w/plenty of references/other site listings, etc. is: ldaamerica.us
I hope that all works out well for you, your brother and family. You are a sweet sister indeed! Happy Thanksgiving....keep us posted!