It is very complicated. I have had sessions that I felt like T wasn't herself and I walked away frustrated and upset. At the time I didn't know what was going on so I took it personally.

What I had to remind myself was that some of the qualities I liked most about her were the fact is that she is real, she shows some emotion (appropriate) and that she is a normal person just like everbody else. Unfortunately those qualities mean she may sometimes not be on her A game. I also have to remind myself that as hard as I try to leave my personal life at home when I go to work each day, the reality is that there are just days I can't so I put on the best face I can and do my best. T's also are also in the spot of if they cancel then some patients are upset because they really need to see their therapists.

But as a client it does suck when they are not fully able to be at their best.