Jinny,
I have a wonderful T that I have been seeing a little over 2 years. There have been ups and downs, unfortunately, I'm in a down. I think this is the real issue that we are dealing with now. It hurts like #$%%#@! I sometimes wonder if I'm going to make it through. Somehow, I know I will.
I think my answer to your question is TIME. I think you have to go through what you go through and there will be a point that things ease.
I hope you will soon reach that place soon (you and I both

)
Hang in there.