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Originally Posted by unaluna
Instead of saying, "well i see you cant take care of me today so i will leave in order to unconsciously take care of you," what if the OP would have said, "i see you cant take care of me today as you usually do, AND ITS MAKING ME ANGRY."
Eta - i acknowledge its difficult to stay in the moment and putvwords to what we are feeling at the time, but that IS our only job in t, imo.
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The problem is I had no idea at the time that T had stuff going on. I really thought it was me. I thought T was frustrated with me because I wasn't in a great mood and had all my barriers up that she couldn't get through. I had no idea or reason to think she had anything going on that was affecting her. If she doesn't say it, I don't know.