Bottom line concerning last night's argument: H says children do not respect him because of me. That they don't respect me either, are just using me. I don't think H respects any of us either. Respect is a two way street. At this point in our children's life, I cannot change how they feel about him. It might be an irreconcilable difference. As long as H blames me for this and the four of us can't feel the love--how can our marriage truly be happy?