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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
Bottom line concerning last night's argument: H says children do not respect him because of me. That they don't respect me either, are just using me. I don't think H respects any of us either. Respect is a two way street. At this point in our children's life, I cannot change how they feel about him. It might be an irreconcilable difference. As long as H blames me for this and the four of us can't feel the love--how can our marriage truly be happy?
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It's tough when a couple disagree about childrearing issues, and it isn't always possible to compromise. How we parent seems often a reflection of how we were reared ourselves, and if we have very different upbringings it can be difficult to reconcile that there is in most cases no 'right or wrong' way to raise kids - just differences.
Edit - Just read your other post and it seems in your case your attitude to parenting may have been the opposite to how you were raised, but my point still stands there is no right or wrong way in most cases (excepting abusive families) just different.
Your children are adults now and as such I don't think it's either helpful or appropriate to attribute blame on the other parent (as he seems to have done), unless you have been actively conspiring with them against him then it's not fair either.
What is 'respect' to your husband? Do you feel that your children don't respect him or do you feel it is more his expectations about 'respect' which are unrealistic?