I think the dynamic between you, h, and the kids contributed to your attempt. And the stress continues...

How do you feel about your son's POV? What do you want to do about it? What are you able to do about it?

It's hard for me to relate because I am such a dominant mother in the family dynamic. My h doesn't passionately enforce anything concerning the kids. It's mostly my influence, and now that the boys are men, they are in charge of themselves.

If my son didn't want to go, I'd support it. But, your values may be different. (Especially with what may be looming on the horizon with our crazy world and wars)

Sending you strength today.