That sounds spectacularly unhelpful.

Does your marriage t give any feedback on the relationship? Like does t think it can be fixed with some skill teaching? have you asked t if they think you would benefit from your own t?

From the sounds of it, you may benefit from having your own t no matter which way your marriage goes. Or, if there is an addiction involved, 12 step groups have helped my marriage a lot. Sounds like you need support no matter what you decide. I hope you can find some.