Thank you all for your responses. I'm sorry I am not very good at keeping track of forums. I've honestly been avoiding reading all these very helpful comments because things haven't been so bad lately and I've been trying to enjoy it.

She hit me again last night. This was in response to a "judging look" that I gave her after my daughter had been a terror all night and my wife said "she understands Casey Anthony now". I was mortified by the statement and I'm guessing my face showed it. Today she is not apologetic for either the comment or hitting me. She has to pick my daughter up from school in an hour and I won't be home until over an hour after that. For the first time I am worried about their safety.

To answer some questions: No, she doesn't currently see a therapist. Again, this is something that comes up but never happens.

Someone suggested I call her Dr. but this is only a general practice Dr and I don't know if that would help.

As far as the suggestions to see a therapist of my own- I am facing a double edged sword. By far the most difficult moments for my wife are when she is alone with my daughter. If I were to see a therapist on a regular basis, that would only increase the number of those moments. I feel very stuck on that issue.

She is not coming around to these things on her own. What am I supposed to do? Take my daughter and leave until she does? I don't think that it's bad enough for that. But I do know that it will make the situation unrepairable. I don't know how to protect us without telling her that she HAS to do something whether its therapy or medication.