So is that what disclosure means to you? I thought initially that my brother was saying that it was better to discuss it with people. The most helpful were crisis hotline people. I have also read countless times online that one should tell a trusted friend or family member. I really wasn't wanting to engender pity of sympathy but rather ideas as to how to improve.

As far as coddling and attention...everyone wants that. I don't believe in tough love at all. I believe that love motivates people.

I think maybe I have been confused about disclosure. Oh well. My tendency is to not disclose so I guess I can go back to that.