I don't know why you say you "have to" listen to mental health problems of family members. I guess I feel differently. My oldest friend has long-standing mental health problems and I am more than happy to be a listening ear if that is what she needs. Recently another family member went into counseling and I was supportive. As long as people are trying to get better and improve...or even if they can't. But maybe if you don't want to listen to the problems of others you should politely tell them you aren't able to be receptive...